What if we married friends, like we marry husbands? Hmm...I don't mean really marry them, I just mean what if we made commitments to them. I guess a lot of people do that already, but I don't think there are that many people that follow through 100%. When I was in kindergarten, Jenny Fox and I promised each other that we would invite each other to every birthday party we ever had, for the rest of our lives. That lasted until probably 5th grade or so, which is pretty impressive, if you ask me. The troubles with Jenny started happening when she wasn't in my class in 3rd grade...could a friendship really survive an 8th of a mile distance?! haha..
Maybe everything would get really complicated if a person had so many other people they were committed to, but maybe it would help people like me. I seem to run through friends rather quickly. If one isn't working out, I'll weigh how much time and effort I've put into them, and the difficulty I will encounter in trying to piece the friendship back together. If I don't think it's worth the effort, I slowly back off from them and find another friend. Of course, this isn't all intentional, sometimes I think it happens without me being conscience of it. And when it does happen, it really stinks and really hurts, so it definitely isn't something I take lightly.
Does this mean I should be choosier with my friends? Or just the people I trust? Or does this mean I'm a big jerk who doesn't get along with anybody? Haha. Well, I think I'm going to make a big goal for this year when it comes to friendships. I am going to work toward maintaining friendships rather than cultivating them.
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